“Weddings are important because they celebrate life and possibility”. Anne Hathaway
“I believe that anybody who gets married should go to a counselor for months before the wedding. I think that’s going to save guys a lot of money and the ladies a lot of heartbreak”. James Brolin
A wedding is a ceremony where people are united in marriage. Wedding traditions and customs vary greatly between cultures, ethnic groups, religions, countries, and social classes. Most wedding ceremonies involve an exchange of wedding vows by the couple, presentation of a gift (offering, ring(s), symbolic item, flowers, money), and a public proclamation of marriage by an authority figure or leader. Special wedding garments are often worn, and the ceremony is sometimes followed by a wedding reception. Music, poetry, prayers or readings from religious texts or literature are also commonly incorporated into the ceremony.
WEDDING A GIRL THING?
“I’d imagine my wedding as a fairy tale… huge, beautiful and white”. Paris Hilton
“A wedding is such a girl thing”. Selma Blair
“In the ’50s, a lot of girls never saw beyond the wedding day”. Helen Reddy
“I always had boyfriends, but I never imagined a proposal or a wedding. To me, that was like having a ball and chain round your neck”. Sandra Bullock
THE WEDDING PLANNER
“Many people spend more time in planning the wedding than they do in planning the marriage”. Zig Ziglar
“Falling in love was the easy part; planning a wedding – yikes!” Niecy Nash
“People always complain, ‘you never invited me to your wedding’, but I prefer casual weddings”. Sinead O’Connor
“An invitation to a wedding invokes more trouble than a summons to a police court”. William Feather
A number of cultures have adopted the traditional Western custom of the white wedding, in which a bride wears a white wedding dress and veil.
“A wedding dress is both an intimate and personal for a woman – it must reflect the personality and style of the bride”. Carolina Herrera
This tradition was popularized through the wedding of Queen Victoria. Some say Victoria’s choice of a white gown may have simply been a sign of extravagance, but may have also been influenced by the values she held which emphasized sexual purity.Within the modern ‘white wedding’ tradition, a white dress and veil are unusual choices for a woman’s second or subsequent wedding. The use of a wedding ring has long been part of religious weddings in Europe and America, but the origin of the tradition is unclear.
“In the Mexican culture, we never miss a baptism, a birthday, a baby shower, a wedding shower, a wedding. You must show up. Otherwise, you’ll be in big trouble”. Eva Longoria
Music played at Western weddings includes a processional song for walking down the aisle (ex: wedding march) either before or after the marriage service.
THE WEDDING MARCH
“When the wedding march sounds the resolute approach, the clock no longer ticks, it tolls the hour. The figures in the aisle are no longer individuals, they symbolize the human race”. Anne Morrow Lindbergh
“The Wedding March always reminds me of the music played when soldiers go into battle”. Heinrich Heine
“The Wedding March has a bit of a death march in it”. Brian May
Relevant music includes:
Various works for trumpet and organ, arguably the most famous of which include the Prince of Denmark’s March by Jeremiah Clarke as a processional, the “Trumpet Tune” by Henry Purcell and the “Trumpet Voluntary” by John Stanley as recessionals.
Selections by George Frideric Handel, perhaps most notably the “Air” from his Water Music as processional and the “Alla Hornpipe” as recessional.
The “Bridal Chorus” from Lohengrin by Richard Wagner, often used as the processional and commonly known as “Here Comes the Bride”.
Johann Pachelbel’s Canon in D is an alternative processional.
The “Wedding March” from Felix Mendelssohn’s incidental music for the Shakespeare play, A Midsummer Night’s Dream, used as a recessional.
The “Toccata” from Charles-Marie Widor’s Symphony for Organ No. 5, used as a recessional.
Segments of the Ode to Joy, the fourth movement of Ludwig van Beethoven’s Ninth Symphony.
Other alternative considerations include various contemporary melodies like Bob Marley’s One Love which is often performed by a steel drum band.
THE WEDDING SINGER
“I sang a song at my sister’s wedding. My mother forced me into that, too. But that one felt all right”. Adam Sandler
“I only did karaoke once in my life. It was with Courtney Love and it was a total disaster. She pulled me on stage in front of 500 people at a wedding. I’d never done karaoke before”. Jared Leto
“I think that weddings have probably been crashed since the beginning of time. Cavemen crashed them. You go to meet girls. It makes sense”. Christopher Walken
FOUR WEDDINGS AND A FUNERAL
“A wedding is a funeral where you smell your own flowers”. Eddie Cantor
“My father always wanted to be the corpse at every funeral, the bride at every wedding and the baby at every christening”. Alice Roosevelt Longworth